Stay at home dads: logical choices
Recent discussions about money, higher-earners and expectations, external and internal to the relevant family members, has conveniently coincided with the point in time where we start talking about...
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Redemption: The Next Generation
This year, two of my baby relatives are heading off to medical school and I couldn’t be prouder. Growing up in an equally poor household, their family stayed that way. They didn’t try to live above...
View ArticleMaking new friends in Tax Season 2012: 1040x, 540x, 4868
This is the tax season that may never end. It was probably between lines 35 and 37, estimating our 2011 taxes. I was writing in another set of numbers. And before the reason fully settled in, I felt...
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Hainan chicken and poor family’s porridge
I’ve used Steamy Kitchen’s Hainanese Chicken Recipe in the past, but returning to it this week, I realized that the way the recipe was organized had me running back and forth so much that I was wasting...
View ArticleComments of the random sort
Doggle is finally learning to play a little bit. I’ve been chasing him around the yard when we travel to places that have yards, and he chases me in turn. Hilarity. He is crap at visual recognition. He...
View ArticleOn Anonymity, a face and a name, and a revelation
There’s a question of whether you can truly believe what a blogger’s saying if you don’t know his or her real name, or see his or her face, of whether there’s disingenuity in hiding behind a pseudonym...
View ArticleProtected: Shared joy is a double joy?
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View ArticleLove, loss and finding some words
Many people mark dates. Anniversaries, milestones, important events. I rarely have, dates mean little to my mind. More than ever, now. My mom is gone. Only the general passage of time, in weeks or...
View ArticleFathers and daughters, family and formation
Since Mom’s been gone, Dad’s compensating, and overcompensating, for the loss and the guilt of having relied on my support for so long by throwing himself into his work, a new project that’s labor...
View ArticleWhere there’s a will, there’s a way
Sometimes I think the world needs to hear this a little more often. This is a bit of a follow-on thought from the Marissa Mayer post, and partly inspired by a comment I absolutely agreed with from...
View ArticleSnore-a-pod and other unlikely things
A marriage is always made up of two people who are prepared to swear that only the other one snores. –The Fifth Elephant, Terry Pratchett I’m absolutely prepared to swear that I’m not the one who...
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Sharing is caring: Happy ferrets edition!
This. Week. This edition wasn’t supposed to be so morose but … To quote the Onion: “Maybe next time we have a week, they can try not to pack it completely to the fucking brim with explosions,...
View ArticleLife with chronic pain: a sobering reminder
Reading Parenting with chronic pain on Slate was a huge wrenching reality check for me. There’s nothing new in there. No surprises about how chronic pain plus the rigors of parenting go down. Nothing...
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Life lessons: adults don’t know everything
“You don’t tell me ‘No’, you say ‘No’ to your parents!” When I was nine, a landlady was prescribing the weirdest diet to fix whatever she thought was wrong with me. The details I remember involved raw...
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Parenthood: week 1
As might be expected, the first week post-birth was a blur of sleep deprivation, oddly defined shifts of baby coverage where at least one of us would be found asleep with a happy sleeping baby...
View ArticleParenting and the childcare conundrum
Is it ironic to anyone else that one of the first things you have to look for when you’re expecting, assuming you haven’t decided that one of you will stay home with the kid(s), is childcare? I mean,...
View ArticleLong weekends: a first road trip
We recently experienced a little improvement in quality of life, and so decided to take on another challenge. Since none of my family had met the newbie yet, and his family was ready to take another...
View ArticleIs one the loneliest number?
Or is it the perfect number? I have a half dozen friends who were onlies and happy about it. Half a dozen others who wish they were onlies, and dozens more who are glad they had siblings. PiC always...
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How to: Weekend!
Long before LB came along, I was getting grumpy with how we did weekends. PiC was accustomed to getting out Saturday mornings and cranking out some miles. I’ve always had my feet up, working on the...
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Homemade Scouts?
Lots of friends have kids in our area and it seems like they all participate in the Scouts. I love the idea of certain things about the Scouts (the learning to do things, whether it be wildernessy or...
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